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Tuesday, 7 January 2014

OMGGGG!!! I moved to Word Press


SORRY GUYS!!!!!

I FAILED TO MENTION MONTHS AGO THAT I MOVED TO WORD PRESS...

I HAVE MY REASONS!  YOU CAN STILL CATCH UP WITH ME THERE!!!!

THERE IS A JUICY STORY IVE STARTED WRITING ON THERE BTW *WINK*

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OH AND HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

WITH LOVE,

RITA DIAMONDS XXX

Thursday, 23 May 2013

Extra-Marital Affairs Frustrate Me ---Pardon me while I rant...

I am sure you see my heading and immediately wonder why I seem very easily roused about the subject when I am not even married. I am far from ready to get hitched, not every twenty something year old Nigerian woman/girl/babe is fixated with the idea of planning a big wedding or gaining esteem for being able to get a man to propose. I am not trying to be the next Oprah Winfrey LOL I do not even want to ever be that powerful and rich seems like too much burden if you ask me. I just want to discover me, own myself for a little longer before committing to share all of me, mind, body and soul to one person for the rest of my life. If I ever walk down that aisle I want to feel like my life would be deficient without that one person, he should make me a version of me the world cannot do without.


So do I get frustrated about a topic that does not yet concern me yet? First of all the term “Every man cheats” infuriates the “mind my French” out of me. I do not even think it is the phrase itself that annoys me but the self proclaimed exposed women who preach the sermon to their daughters when they are about to get married. Or should I make this more Niche?, and say Nigerian women who believe that the secret to a happy marriage is to go in eyes wide shut ignoring the man’s indiscretions as long as he does not try to replace you with one of his mistresses. This mentality of the women over the years has made the men to misbehave without a conscience as they know their wife is going nowhere! , and in turn in modern day Nigerian society the women are now also getting their own fun outside. Most Nigerian men would dare not suspect their wife of cheating, their egos won't allow them to question the frequents late night church services she attends. People say men can differentiate sex from love and emotions but women cannot, hence the reason it’s more jaw breaking when the woman is the culprit. At the end of the day none of these cheaters will leave the marriage because, society condemns it, it’s a comfortable financial set up and last but not the least the “children”.

I make too many references on this blog to the show “Scandal” I am beyond over Olivia Pope’s affair with Fitz, get over it people at least in this lifetime. Leave it to the next life hopefully then fate would be considerate and make your circumstances more ideal. My problem is when people try so hard to rationalise extra marital affairs especially when the man has admitted to being in love with the mistress, everyone goes all “but they are in love, so it is meant to be”, what frustrates me even more is when everyone tries to make us understand why his wife is evil. My point is he knew she was evil when he decided to go in front of God and man and marry her regardless. And if she is really that evil can we hear DIVORCE? Okay in some cases I hear the man does not start such a love affair until he has completely left his marriage which I think is better, but still it frustrates me watching a man (In the case where a happy home), leaves his happy home, wife and kids to pursue the subject of his affections. My reasoning is you should be married to the love of your life anyway, you settled and now please keep  settling don’t break hearts and families because you could not wait for love, or you let love pass you by. I think I am less frustrated about affairs that have nothing to do with love, just a man looking for a lesser woman to boost his ego or a women solely for physical pleasure.

I am currently reading Chimanda Adichie’s new book Americanah and I am already getting frustrated not because of the book itself but because of Ifemelu and Obinze's overdramatized love. Obinze is now married to Kosi with kids, but has still not gotten over Ifemelu, who from where I am still reading has hope of reconnecting with him when she moves back from America to Nigeria. Woman! he has kids, a wife who has done nothing but love him dearly, leave him alone!!!!

None of my friends who have already finished the book have agreed to tell me how it ends, so I have to stay patient and see what happens. I am seriously sensing they will have an extramarital affair and it frustrates the "mind my French" out of me.

Monday, 1 April 2013

Fine China - Chris Brown


For those who do not know I am Chris Brown's no 1 fan!!!!

This new dope video arrived today and has made the world time travel to a world where Michael Jackson is still alive.... my only complaint is why on earth did the movie stop? was enjoying it so much!

must..WATCH!!! can't wait for the X album...Love you Breezy.

RD xx



Monday, 11 February 2013

SWEET LOVE- without tragedy

"I dont want normal and Easy, OR simple...I want...painful! Difficult!! Devastating!! Life changing!!! Extraordinary!!!! love" - Olivia Pope (Scandal)


I see how the sub-heading (quote) on this post would lead one to believe I am validating this type of painful, devastating love. Okay may be I sort of am in a twisted way, I really think everyone is entitled some drama in their love life at some point if not for anything but to have a good story to tell. We want the Noah and Allison's (The Notebook movie), the Romeo and Juliet's these are what make good stories. Heart breaking stories is what we want to talk about, to be honest easy love is very boring. Haha after all is said and done "what is love with tragedy?". Well i'll answer that, it is still love, but I get it!, there is a sort of addictive feeling we get to the kind of love that has all sorts of screaming red warning signs!...

                     

Hmmmm well my advise to anyone seeking the sort of love Olivia Pope from scandal seeks is to engage in it just for a short term basis. Go ahead have your intense passion "We found love in a hopeless place" type of love, but come out of it one day and have the kind of love you deserve which I call "SWEET LOVE". What is sweet love? I would say sweet love is one that does not hurt 80% of the time, for 20% you are allowed to not stand each other but 80% let it be beautiful, easy and comfortable. If you must dalliance with Mr OMygosh Sexy Wrong in your youth, get all the burning dysfunctional desire out of your system while you are young. 



When you are ready for the type of love that is made in heaven, marry your best friend!, the one who understands you, the one who comes with love, understanding, comfort and NO  okay may be a tiny little bit of tragedy to spice things up *wink*.

With Love,
RD x

P.s my second Scandal inspired post, after I watched the last episode and Olivia said that line, I thought gosh what is wrong with women and causing their heart breaks???.... and if you still dont watch Scandal what is your excuse??? #nocomment. 

Thursday, 17 January 2013

Short Story : India's Journal


Hello journal my name is India, and no I have never been to India, as a matter of fact nothing about me has any association to India. My parents just thought to give me the name to be distinctive *rolls eyes*. People I have randomly met named India always seem to have some sort of story, like their parents met there, but mine have not even been there. My parents cannot even stand Indian food or any sort of spicy food for that matter. Okay, I am sure you have had enough about me ranting about my name. I am twenty-four years old and I am a Londoner. I work in the city as a management consultant. Every weekday I am underground at 6.30am sharp, boarding my train to get to work at 7am. I always go to the second to the last carriage as it is near to the exit of the station I come off at for work. For the last two years since I started my job I have noticed that it is the same people that are in this carriage every morning. We even give each other that nod of recognition.  I notice when a member has been absent for a while, it’s a bad economy so I wonder if they moved house and use a different route to work or got laid off. These people in the carriage are my friends in some weird twisted way; they see me more than most of my friends and even my boyfriend. They see me five days a week; I never cancel on them unless I am on leave from work. In actuality I cancel on my real friends a lot, most days I get off from work at around 7pm and all I just want to go home and sleep. 

During the weekends I also want to sleep but Leonard my boyfriend insists on all these date nights to keep the relationship alive. Why will he not just put on his pyjamas and watch TV with me all weekend? Sometimes its so annoying when he makes us double date with his best friend Thomas whose girl friend I find unbearable. She is someone I find very uninspiring and while the boys are yakking on about football, I have to listen to her soliloquy about her boring friends who according to her stories are all morally loose. She always asks about my job, but I do not want to talk about my job with her, I do not want to talk about my job period. I am not even sure I like my job; does anyone really love his or her job? I mean I get paid well, and I have somewhere to go to everyday. I used to moan about my job a lot to my friend Tracy until she told me she could not take it anymore, poor her she has not gotten a proper job since she left university a year ago it must be frustrating. I have not spoken to Tracy in a few months, but I like most of her pictures on instagram, she is really pretty and stylish, I hope that counts as keeping in touch. I miss her stories about her exciting dates though. I wonder where she finds all these interesting guys in London and I have to end up with Leonard. Do not misunderstand me he is awesome, but just very ordinary in many ways I am still in the relationship because no one better has showed up. He treats we well anyway, for my last birthday he got me a black mulberry bag, saw a lady yesterday who has the brown version, it looks much nicer than mine. I have to stop now though, need to sleep as I wake up everyday at 5am, work at 7am remember? Sigh.

Monday, 17 December 2012

Short Story 1 - Happy Birthday Stranger


Daisy is getting dressed to go for dinner, it’s her birthday and she is meeting with some of her girlfriends and friends from work they are going to a new Brazilian restaurant which is rumoured to be West London’s must go to location. Her phone rings she tries to reach it but it’s too late as it stops ringing once she gets to it, she looks at the caller ID and the number is unfamiliar. But then it starts to ring again and she picks up and says “hello” after two seconds of silence she hears a familiar voice say “Merry Christmas” and she bursts into laughter and Henry joins her in the laughter and after what seemed like five seconds of laughter he says “ Happy Birthday stranger”.

It had always been like Henry to say  “Happy New Year” on Easter Sunday and say  “Happy Hanukah” on Valentines Day.  Daisy sits on her bed and she is pleased that after all this while she still finds his alternative jokes highly amusing, she says “thank you stranger”. It has been five years since they both talked, they had promised to remain friends but that never happened. They both now even live in different countries. After what happened five years ago one would think the conversation would be awkward but before ten minutes they had summarised what had gone on in the last five years of their life’s. She got her dream job in London as a magazine fashion editor and he is working for one of the oil companies back in Nigeria and recently got a promotion. He loves his job because he gets to travel a lot, but he starts study leave in three months as he has been accepted to do his MBA at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. She tells him that she met her Idol R-Kelly last year at a concert and was even able to steal a picture with him.

Then the inevitable discussion of their love life comes up, he says that since they stopped talking he did not get into anything serious for two years and was quite the player. He had eventually gone into two pretty serious relationships, which eventually ran their course, but he is now in love with a lady called Stella. Stella had been his dentist for the last year and there was an attraction between them but he only asked her for a first date around valentines day and it has since blossomed into a solid relationship, although still in the early stages he had a really good feeling like he had finally found his soul mate in Stella. The big problem is that in three months he is relocating from Lagos to Chicago and he does not know if they can go the distance for two years till he returns, but he hopes so cause he feels that she is the one and if things go his way after his MBA he plans to get married to her.

Daisy tells Henry she just split with her boyfriend of four years after refusing his marriage proposal. He bursts out laughing saying “poor guy, Daisy will anyone ever be good enough for you?”.  Daisy is silent and he immediately apologises that that was uncalled for him to say that, she says “its okay Henry no need to apologize, to be honest you may be right something is wrong with me I tell you Kevin is the perfect guy every mother wishes her daughter brought home”. Then Henry says “so why did you refuse his proposal?” Daisy goes on to tell him about her Kevin who also resides in London and works in Information Technology, they started off so well and at some point she admits that she thought she was in love with him. She says the last year had been like a Déjà vu doing the same thing, nothing was exciting anymore and all she had left for him was admiration and respect but the fireworks were long gone and she knew she could not commit to that forever.  Daisy tells Henry that she felt very bad for doing that to Kevin but she feels in the long run he will be happy she said no, when he meets someone and feels things that he never felt with her. Henry is silent and Daisy says “Henry I am really happy for you hope everything works out with Stella”.

Daisy had never dated Henry they were just very close friends, but that changed after one mad drunken night. They were both single at the time, they had gone drinking after going to see a movie together but they broke tradition of their friendship and woke up the next morning in the same bed in an awkward situation. Things never remained the same and to make matters worse they could not put it behind them and act like it never happened because Henry told her he always had strong feelings for her and she on the other hand did not feel the same way. Everything changed, they started talking less and eventually completely stopped, he moved from London to Lagos and it was easy to stay out of each other life’s, as he did not even have a Facebook account.  That is why this phone call was the last thing Daisy had expected on her twenty fifth birthday. Henry says he was in London for the week and was now in the airport on his way back to Lagos and he never forgot her birthday and decided to try her number and luckily for him she had the same number. “Henry I am happy you called, and I am sorry that we...” he stops her “Daisy I have to go now the plane is boarding, it was lovely talking you I wish you all the best in life and hope you find what you want in love someday” she says “Bye Henry” and he hangs up. She smiles as she is putting on her make up, that phone call has to be mother natures way of letting her know a new chapter in her life is about to start and she is finally free of the past.

On her way to dinner as she is locking her door, she hears a voice say “hello” and she turns and sees a charming, talk dark handsome man smiling at her. She says “hello” and he starts walking towards her as she is walking towards her car. He tells her he is her new neighbour and his name is Stephen she says, “Welcome to the neighbourhood, I am Daisy”. He asks where she is going and she tells him it is her birthday that she is going for dinner with friends, he says “Happy Birthday Daisy why did you not invite me, or does your boyfriend not approve of you having male friends?”. Daisy laughs and says she does not have a boyfriend and he says “I do not have a girlfriend too so that’s good to know”.  Daisy opens her car door and tells him she will see him another time as she is running late. Stephen says to Daisy “ I look forward to seeing you everyday, moving to this neighbourhood must be the best decision I have made in my life”. Daisy smiles at him, shakes her head closes her car door and starts the engine.

The end!


Friday, 14 December 2012

Smile it keeps them guessing

I love smiling, its one of the gifts from God that brings us together in harmony. A smile can change your day, your life even. A stranger smiles to you, and suddenly you want to know more about the stranger and ten years later you two are taking the kids to the Disney Land. You walk in for a job interview and smile and suddenly the employer is listening more carefully to your answers. You stop at the fruit stand to buy a box of strawberries, you greet the fruit seller with a smile and he tells you to pay half price. I once had a very  rolla-coster day from one bad news to another, met up with a friend and was asked to share the good news that I looked so happy. LOL was I to greet my dear friend who I had not seen in a while with a frown, because of things I will one day overcome?? If no was what you said I thought so too!

I have told myself to always stay positive, things always get better. Things may get worse before they get better, but your attitude towards the situation goes a long way to making you feel strong through it all. In the heat of tribulations we have a tendency to loose track of the things we already have that we should be thankful for. People come and people go, but true family and friends will always be two steps behind ready to help us get back up when we fall. Let go of weights pulling you down, spread your wings and fly to the sky. Smile through the pain, the tears, the disappointment. People see you smiling and wonder what good news you just heard, but you know your life is a testimony. Everyday you are alive is worth being thankful for. Keep smiling and watch favours come your way!...Guess what? I am smiling now :-)

With Love,
Rita Diamonds

Monday, 10 September 2012

Are we all opportunists??

First of all sorry I have not been here for a while now, needless to say I have been very busy but im here now.

Summer is practically over at my end of the world, year is coming to an end and I still feel my best is yet to come. This is a topic that I find particularly interesting when trying to understand human behaviour. There is a story I heard about the famous Mahatma Gandhi, he was once asked what he would do if one leg of his shoes fell into the train tracks (I guess he was asked this as he was a Law student in University College London, probably using the trains daily); his answer was that he would throw the other one into the train tracks and hopefully a homeless guy would find the two legs of the shoe and use it one day. Okay first of all when I heard this I  was inspired and was thinking boy! that guy was smart! wow why can half the world not be like him! But then again was he just blest in giving the perfect answer? Would he actually have thought in the moment of loosing a leg of his shoe to throw the other one in the same place hoping to help a stranger????

I tell you I have come across so many people in my short time on earth and as I grow older I tend to feel people always have themselves in priority despite what they say. I used to be naive and think that everyone that says they are going to help you will, or say they have your best interest at heart always do. People will help you to the extent where they can no longer take the inconvenience. I am not saying people are not ready or help you but I think everyone one has a limit where they cannot keep putting you before their needs. A lot of people are ready to do whatever it takes to reach their goals in life, some would go to the extent of committing murder just to move ahead in life. How low can you really go? To get what you want what is the price you are willing to pay? Until you want something so bad you feel you cannot live without that is when you will begin to know what values you would contemplate losing to excel. Life is a merry go round, a year later from now you could find yourself crossing boundaries you didn't even know existed just to pay your bills. How many prisoners were born criminals, sometimes life throws challenges that distort your views and values and before you know you are a prisoner of life, a prisoner of your dreams.

How many of your friends are friends and are not steps for you to get to the destination. Some people are constant users and abusers, addicted to using people for their own personal gain. Brother will betray sister, this is a common story, nothing new there. In life it is inevitable that people will not one day use your friendship for a selfish purpose and  mislead you thinking they genuinely care about you.  My own worry is whether we are all opportunists, all after different goals using different means to get what we truly want, deceiving and misleading people along the way. How many people in the heat of losing a shoe will not first worry of how they are going to work home with one leg and if they would not injure their leg, instead  immediately throw the other one away and walk home bare feet, carefree and happy.

Sunday, 1 July 2012

Some Photos 3

Some pictures I took recently, still trying to get a hang of photography, but there you go!...as usual click on the photos to see them full sized xx








Guess who I discovered today??



He is from South London born in 1992, to a Kenyan father and an Irish mother.

Okay today I put up a BBM status "Ed Sheeran and Emeli Sande kinda day" and a friend bbms asking me if I have heard of Josh Osho, that if  I like those two I would like him. Quite frankly I had never heard of him, so I youtubed him immediately and I first listened to his first single "Redemption" which by the way is now featured in BP's London Olympics 2012 advert. After 'Redemption' I listened to his second single 'Giants' and now I am a die hard fan of JOSH OSHO! .... Unfortunately I do not think this kid is being given proper publicity, why am I only finding out about him? more people need to know about him because his music is fantastic, his videos do not have as many views as I would have expected for the quality and the fact that he is currently signed to Island records....

I am yet to get his Album L.I.F.E but I already know I will love it..... In the mean time I have done some stalking and found some of his previous covers.. I particularly like his cover of 'Kanye West - Jesus Walks'

Here it is-- Boy knows a thing or two about guitars..



Here is Kanye West's Version



GO JOSH!!!!!! oh and btw ED SHEERAN IS THAT DUDE!!!



Tuesday, 12 June 2012

Afro Beats is Taking Over


Beautiful Oyinye P-Square ft Rick Ross 

 P-Square are Nigerian twins Peter and Paul and I have been a huge fan for a long long time. They recently signed with Akon (Konvict Muzik) and I could not be happier for them. Their songs have a huge "Igbo" influence as they are from South Easten Nigeria, and they always have some Igbo phrases in their songs. In this song they are singing about a girl "Oyinye" who is so beautiful! Rick Rozzay's part is actually dope and blends nicely to the duo's cry for Oyinye's love..


 

Friday, 8 June 2012

Positivity

 oh lol btw these pictures are very unclear they were taken through photo boot on Mac not the best of cameras but will do :D

With Love,
Rita Diamonds xx

Tuesday, 5 June 2012

Diamond Jubilee feature

Living in London I could not avoid the celebrations of Queen Elizabeth's Diamond Jubilee, rather inevitable. Apparently this is not expected to happen again until 350 years, although I am not sure how this was calculated and estimated, ill just go with it.

                                                Here is a picture that says a thousand words.
Awwwwwwwwwwwwww I want LOVE too

God Save the Queen! 

Saturday, 2 June 2012

Without You

I'm currently singing and dancing to it in my room....In my mind I'm currently in a music video...haha 

David Guetta is the King of House Music and USHER is USHER!!!! what more can you ask for ?!

Oh oh oh! 
You! You! You! 
Without... You! You! You! 
Without...you 

I am lost, I am vain, 
I will never be the same 
Without you, without you
Without...you

 

Tuesday, 15 May 2012

Saturday, 12 May 2012

How can something so wrong feel so right???!!!

Okay I am a TV whore I watch like One million tv shows and get passionate about quiet a few. Sometimes I do not like to be disturbed when I am watching a particular show, like I get all "no phone calls" mode. I remember someone calling me strange because I said I could not meet up because I was going to be watching a particular show lool!. Excuse me, call me strange but I simply do not care, you will less likely see me disturbing someone when their team's football match is going on so why can I not  demand the same respect??? sigh...

So my new TV show craze is a show created by the one and only Shonda Rhimes. If you have never heard about her google her asap! She brought 'Grey's Anatomy' which I have already stated I love on this blog, and also it's spin off 'Private Practice'. This new show is called 'Scandal' I cannot think of a more appropriate name. It centres on Olivia Pope(Kerri Washington) who helps protect people's public images and makes sure their scandalous stories never get out. Talk about damage control this woman and her team know exactly what to do! Thats not all there is about the show we find out all the main characters have serious secrets for one Olivia and the President of the United States had an intimate affair during his campaign, and he does not hide it from us that he is still hopelessly in love with her even though the affair has ended . The president is married and this should be so wrong! every woman or girl watching should immediately hate Oliva and the President for their forbidden love but you find yourself having hope for them...

In this last episode he defies security rules of the white house and pays her a visit at night. He came to convince her that he was not responsible for the death of a girl he allegedly had an affair with. But before Mr President goes he asks to just have one minute with Olivia, for one minute they sit on the sofa and just cuddle silently. While cuddling silently we see from their faces, how painful their love is and you cannot help but wonder .....How can something so wrong feel so right? 

Cannot wait for the season final next week! and yay it has been renewed for a 2nd season..

here is the video of the scene

Saturday, 21 April 2012

Say Hello, then Say Farewell

There is a reason why music exists!! It does amazing things to me, there is no day I can go without listening to music. My taste in music has such a wide range, I can tolerate most genres it all depends on my mood.

My song for  today is "Strawberry Swing - Frank Ocean" The song was originally written and sang by Cold Play! but there is something fresh and genuine about Frank's take on the song , he gives it a Neo Soul feel that just leaves me feeling warm.

This song just makes me want to live in the moment and enjoy what I currently have!





"Just in case an atom bomb comes falling on my lawn I should say and you should hear I've loved the good times here"

Saturday, 17 March 2012

some photos 2

Some photos I took I thought I'd share :)...











In case you are wondering the cute kid is my cousin's baby so I guess I am his aunty!! He is gonna be a heart breaker one day ;)

Friday, 16 March 2012

Be a Realistic Optimist

I came across a very interesting article on Harvard Business Review on what successful people do differently. I found number 4 particularly useful click on the link to read the whole article It may be worth your time :) x

"4. Be a realistic optimist. When you are setting a goal, by all means engage in lots of positive thinking about how likely you are to achieve it. Believing in your ability to succeed is enormously helpful for creating and sustaining your motivation. But whatever you do, don't underestimate how difficult it will be to reach your goal. Most goals worth achieving require time, planning, effort, and persistence. Studies show that thinking things will come to you easily and effortlessly leaves you ill-prepared for the journey ahead, and significantly increases the odds of failure. "

Nine Things Successful People Do Differently - Heidi Grant Halvorson - Harvard Business Review